“The happiness that we deeply desire is always accessible and it doesn’t require the person to change. Any happiness based on a change is fickle. Any happiness based on waiting for things to be settled isn’t sustainable.”
Jagjot Singh
Talks About The Compassionate Heart
One of the deepest understandings that happen when we are in search of self-knowledge is that the concern with personal progress, in any form, begins to fade. Awakening is not meant to solve personal problems, but to give a deep clarity into the movement of what’s happening. Therefore, while the life of the person continues to be a constant struggle with relationships, there is a recognition of deep peace beneath what appears as the chaos.
It doesn’t mean that with deeper spiritual understanding “my” life will become perfect. The person’s patterns may continue, but with acceptance of What-Is, the concern with fixing or changing the pattern may dissolve. This naturally brings down the anxiety associated with “thinking” of oneself as flawed for having a pattern.
Awakening shows you your real home. It shows you your place of refuge when the winds are fierce. It doesn’t require you to change yourself to be home. The happiness that we deeply desire is always accessible and it doesn’t require the person to change. Any happiness based on a change is fickle. Any happiness based on waiting for things to be settled isn’t sustainable.
We feel once I change and become “better,” I will have the perfect life with perfect relationships. Life will never be perfect because it is already the perfection. What we perceive as problems are identifications with things “I” don’t want. We want control because that make us feel safe, and that’s precisely where we act in ways that causes chaos. The “I” and “problems” are the same movement.
But the problems are there and they need action. So what to do? When we see that the problems are “just problems,” we act without being invested in a preferred solution. We act seeing these problems as happenings, and not “mine” to solve. We see that problems are not a reflection of who I am.
They are there, they will always be there, in some form or the other. We see that the one who’s invested in problems has left home and is longing to go back more than wanting a solution to these problems. I AM home.
With love,
Jagjot
